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So, you have a great nickname, a wonderful yet endearing opening line now you need to keep their attention and build their curiosity about you. The words you choose to describe yourself and what you are looking for matter! They are incredibly powerful and can convey so much about you as a person. Pay attention to the way they are strung, the many meanings they contain, be careful with the words that you choose, especially when describing your ideal mate, they have the potential to alienate people - to avoid this try being realistic.
I’ve found that often, either there is very little in the profile, or it reads something to the effect:
- “Hmmm don’t know what to say…but they are making me type 250 characters.”
- “Well, I’ll give this another try. Just looking for some fun on those lonely nights. Am a good looking normal guy just don’t want anything serious right now.”
- “ I think this whole online dating thing is really weird….
Guess what – no one likes to read how hard it is to write a profile or how difficult finding a mate can be. Tell people something about yourself. What makes you laugh, what are your passions, your strengths? There are a number of perspectives here – how about writing your profile as if you were a pet waiting to be adopted? Start thinking outside the box – I promise it will pay off.
I cannot stress enough, how important it is to be honest. Yes, certainly use adjectives to describe yourself, but do not lie. Height is height, age is age and weight is weight. If you hope to meet someone then do not mislead them. Your online rapport will not detract from the fact that your picture is ten years out of date and you are not who you described yourself as. If you don’t fall into one of the body type descriptions on the site, then take the time to explain: For example:
- “I am not athletic, nor slim ~ but in today’s standards I am certainly not average. I am slim yet curvy so think “Betty Boop” or “Marilyn Monroe”, and you’ll get the picture.
Tell people what is important to you; state what you are looking for. Be as clear as you can as this is where the weeding out process begins. Say what type of relationship you are looking for as well (dating, long term relationship, an activity partner). This allows other to know what you want and whether or not they meet your criteria. What characteristics are important to you physically, emotionally, and mentally? Be realistic, but ideally what would your partner be like? Here are a couple great examples:
“She would be my sweetheart, confidante and best friend. Sensuous, funny, positive, independent yet an incurable romantic. She loves her man and is satisfied that he would be her visible and invisible shield, totally supportive of her choices and having enough confidence in her to totally set her free.”
“He lives his life honesty and with integrity - knows what he wants and has managed to get it. You are attractive (to me), romantic, have old-fashioned charm; know how to treat a lady in public and a woman in private. In turn I’ll do the same.”
Take the time to check your spelling and grammar. Depending on whom you are trying to attract, be warned that they may judge you either consciously or unconsciously on your grammar as it is a pretty good IQ filter. Don’t string a long list of adjectives and call it a sentence. Make sure you capitalize the first word in a sentence and end it with punctuation. I suggest writing your profile in a word processing application first; run spell check, make corrections and copy the text into your profile. You can break a few of the rules to suit your style, just make sure that the person can tell the difference between your conversational tone and bad grammar.
Invite conversation by ending your profile with a question. For example:
"If you want to get to know me better, let me know what would be the perfect first date for you and why?"
Here is the full example of the profile I’ve been quoting from:
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User Name: LVIT2F8
Tag Line: I run with scissors ~ do you?
I am 5’8”, slender, and have green eyes. Since I don’t believe I fit into the “body types” listed on the site, you need to know that “I am not athletic, nor slim ~ but in today’s standards I am certainly not average. I am slender yet curvy so think “Betty Boop” or “Marilyn Monroe”, and you’ll get the picture. I’m also intelligent, confident, independent, positive, facetious, successful, naughty and nice – in essence totally happy in my own skin. I like pushing the limit and do so on a number of fronts – why…cause I can, and it is just fun.
I enjoy the finer things (travelling to Europe and all points after that) and yet the simple things in life (sitting on the garage roof and watching a storm blow in). My ideal partner likes to explore the world of wine, can discuss anything from world events, spirituality, and the best spot in world to see (to them). I’m looking for a guy that is confident in himself, and knows that life it to be enjoyed (it is not dull and mundane), and has a sense of humor.
He lives his life honesty and with integrity - knows what he wants and has managed to get it. You are attractive, romantic, have old-fashioned charm, know how to treat a lady in public and a woman in private. In turn I’ll do the same.
I’m not into playing games (head games that is); however I am certainly into being pursued…the chase is awesome and should not be mistaken as a ‘game’, but rather just simple adult play - the sandbox is awesome and the sun is warm… Hmmm you like public displays of affection because when I’m interested – I show it. Do I care what the world thinks…not so much…
Oh, and just as an aside, I’m looking for someone who understands that sensuality is part of who we are and eroticism is part of being; however, this same person, knows that the mind is the ultimate erogenous zone. Looking for that wow factor in a partner– you have to know how to play on a number of levels.
If you want to get to know me better, let me know what your favorite cookie is and why?
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THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX!
Your user name is also known as your nickname, your online name, your handle. I can’t say it enough; your user name, your tag line and your picture are what you are going to be judged on, so you have to give this some attention. Your name tells the world how you should be viewed.
It is amazing how many online nicknames are generic at best, and unappealing at the worst. Give some serious thought to who you are going to be online. What do you want to portray?
Think about:
Who do you want to attract – who is he or she?
Is “the guy” a high powered business man or a cowboy?
Is the “gal” an adventurer who wants to live out of a suitcase or the girl next door?
What your name says about you:
If you call yourself “Cool Dad”, — “Ms. Uptown” is probably going to pass you over. She does not know that you’ve been looking for someone to bring out the metro sexual in you.
How about “NeverEnough”, — if you are in the market for a nice guy your nickname implies a few negatives, such as never enough….attention, money, men?
Sure, there are a few names that are going to attract some immediate attention, such as “SexyGirl4U”, or “FantasyMaker” but they would imply a booty call versus a relationship. (If a booty call is what you want, then feel free to use these names).
What should you call yourself?
Make a list of what makes you tick. If that does not work for you, then try looking up vanity license plates, they tend to be memorable. Write down what describes you best, or what are you proud of?
Here are some good examples, and some not so good examples:
LVIT2F8 (clever) - This individual obviously wants the person to think about the nickname. Here is a hint – it is similar to a vanity plate – “Leave It to Fate”.
Creative Mind (intellectual) - This person wants you to know that he/she is creative. Might leave you guessing as to what they are creative about.
Star Traveler (not bad) - This individual could be talking about an interest in the stars, or be a romantic at heart, makes you wonder.
Harley Guy # (not great) - Ok, so you like Harleys, you and around 2 million other men. Knight Rider would imply much more about you and add a soft touch.
Temp Ad # (horrible) - There are literally thousands of people with the nickname. This says nothing about you and it shows a lack of interest in being on the site.
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First Contact
Whether you are composing that first email or instant message, a little trepidation may set in – oh god, what if they think I’m a dork, or I don’t know what to say. What if they don’t answer? So, let’s take those feelings one by one.
What if they think I’m a dork?
So what, you’ve not met, you are just ‘interested’ at this point – if they don’t respond or are rude – do you really want to get to know them? I say NOT!
I don’t know what to say – try starting with:
- Hello, my name is… simple thus far no?
- Find something in their profile that caught your eye and mention it, or question it. Here are some opening examples:
- I read that you love to travel, what was your favourite spot, and why?
- Offer a sincere compliment – such as, I could not help but notice that you have eyes that pierce the soul, or that is a beautiful smile.
- Ask their opinion – I’ve only been on the site for a few days, are there any tips you care to share?
What if they don’t answer?
If you are instant messaging, it maybe that they are not at their computer, or they are chatting with one or more people, be patient. If you try a few times and no response, then they are not interested in chatting with you. If you have sent them an email and they don’t answer, chances are they have decided you are not what they are looking for. Not responding is perfectly acceptable. Frankly it works both ways – I’d prefer no response to “I’ve read your profile and am not interested. "
Tips:
Unless you are on an adult/intimate site – do not start talking about sex, or what you would like to do to them. Actually even if you are on an adult/intimate site, try being polite and starting a normal conversation first.
Sometimes being a little corny is endearing and will catch someone’s attention. If it is natural for you, then do it.
I’ve written my fair share of introductory emails and usually ended them with a question ~ the answers are exceptionally insightful – and it get’s the person interested/engaged. Here are a few you can use:
- Here is a question for you… if you dare
- If you were a cookie, what type would you be and why?
- If you were a bug, what type would you be and why?
- Is there one place in the world you feel most at home, why?
- What is your favourite car, and why?
- If you could be anywhere for a holiday, where would you be and why?
- Who was the most important influence in your life, and why?
- Who is your favourite historical figure, and why?
- How has online dating treated you so far? Explain…
- Your profile caught my attention, especially xxx, can you explain further?
- What is your favourite candy ~ and what does it do for you?
- What is your favourite piece of clothing ~ how does it make you feel?
- If you were planning a romantic evening for that someone special, what would you do?
- If you were a book, what genre would you be and why?
You get the idea, be original, engaging and even offer a bit of a challenge (nicely of course). If nothing else you are going to make them curious about you, and that is a very good thing as you’ll stand out from 95% of the other online daters out there. Relax and have some fun!
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Who can you meet?
Quite frankly, who can’t you meet?
I know, don’t answer a question with another question. Ok, you can potentially meet anyone your heart desires. Truth ~ you decide what type of site you are interested in joining and who you are interested in meeting. You determine the quality and characteristics of your potential partner, fling, friend or playmate. You can meet millionaires, doctors, lawyers, IT professionals, trades people, truckers. You can meet cowboys/girls, bikers, romantics, bookworms, models, actors, service providers. You can meet anyone!
Who should I sign-up with?
You need to make sure that the dating site(s) you sign up with meets your goals. It might help to make a list regarding what you are looking for. I recommend taking a look at the dating site category descriptions located here. The short answer is that there are three types of online dating sites:
General Online Dating Sites that allow you to view their memberships profiles and are aimed at ‘dating’. Examples are: American Singles, LavaLife, Matchmaker, FriendFinder.
Relationship Dating Sites that match you based on compatibility and what you are looking for in a partner. The name says it all, these sites assume you want to enter into a permanent relationship. Examples are: Date, LavaLife, Cupid Media Sites
Niche Dating Sites that cater to specific groups of people who share a common lifestyle, hobby, or passion. Examples are: adult friend finder, gay personals, married people, senior dating, single millionaires, single parents, big and beautiful.
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When should I follow-up to an email or flirt?
If you are interested in the person, then you should follow up within 48 hours. If you are away or in a "busy" time period, some sites have a ‘form’ email that you can send to let people know you are not able to respond. If the dating site you’ve chosen does not have this feature, then put it into your profile.
It is perfectly acceptable not to respond to an initial contact. I know this may seem rude, but if you decide they are not right for you, not responding is perfectly acceptable. Frankly it works both ways – I’d prefer no response to “I’ve read your profile and am not interested."
When should I call?
One of the great aspects of being online is getting to know someone prior to meeting. Some people are phone people, while others are not. If both parties are interested in chatting on the phone, then by all means talk to eachother after becoming comfortable online. Use your cell phone, see why on our safety tips page.
When should we meet?
While there are no hard and fast rules here, you have to develop a significant degree of comfort. I would suggest that you chat via the dating site, instant messaging or via email for at least a week to ten days, talk on the phone for a bit and then meet. A lot of people want to "cut to the chase" and just meet - I think you do yourself a huge disservice by skipping this step.
When should I follow up after a Meet & Greet?
Depends on how the Meet & Greet went and how you felt about the other person. At the end, both parties may say that it was nice meeting, and agree to follow up. Some people are more comfortable saying that they were not intersted in writing which is fine - other people may say it at the end of the meet. Do whatever makes you the most comfortable. It is good to follow up with the person within 24 hours. If the Meet and Greet was successful, when you are back home send a short email saying that you enjoyed meeting them. It is a nice way to let them know you are interested in pursuing them further. If you are not interested, then it behooves you to let them know as well. Simply say that it was a pleasure meeting them, however, you don’t think that there is enough common ground to continue a friendship.
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How do I start the conversation?
Read their profile! Honestly, this is the best advice I can give you. If you are writing them, then there is something in their profile you found interesting, or you found them incredibly attractive – so compose your email to that effect. Guys – I’m sorry but I’m going to pin this one on you – do not use the shot gun approach and send the same email to numerous perspectives – she is going to read it and know that you are not writing directly to her. For additional tips, read our article on first contact.
How do I write an engaging profile?
- Here is a simple list. For more details, read our article on writing a killer profile.
- Tell people something about yourself.
- Be positive.
- Be honest.
- Tell people what is important to you.
- State what you are looking for.
- Build in the curiosity factor, this will help them to ask you questions and start the conversation.
- Take the time to check your spelling and grammar.
How do I pick a user name?
Think outside the box. Your user name should:
- Describe you and be memorable.
- Easy to remember or catchy.
- Think about who you want to attract.
- Make a list of what makes you tick, then try putting them together.
- What are you passionate about?
For more details, read our article on picking your online user/nickname.
How do I know they are telling the truth?
There are those that are going to fib, or outright mislead you online. Women from foreign countries asking for money; people who fib about their age, weight, occupation, or marital status. It’s true they are out there, but there are many more people who are straight up – why, cause you just might meet. The old rule of thumb, “if it sounds too good to be true”, should be followed online as well.
That being the case, the players and fibbers out there generally start to lose interest when they have to put in an effort corresponding with you. Hence the reason you should take the time to get to know them before meeting. Someone generally interested in you is going to make the time to talk. There are a number of services that offer background checks and we will post them soon.
Follow our safety advice, do not give out personal information such as your real ‘full’ name, address, telephone number until you have corresponded for awhile - even then you might want to do the Meet & Greet first. Do not ever, ever send money to someone!
How do I end a bad date?
Actually this should read, how do I end a bad Meet & Greet ; however, some people consider the first meeting a first date. There can be a lot of reasons that the first meeting does not work out. I suggest being honest with the person and not leading them on. Saying you are not interested is ok.
For more information, read our article on how to end a bad Meet & Greet or date.
How can I find Mr./Ms. Right?
This is not an easy question to answer and tons of books have been written by relationship experts. I can say that hundreds of marriages are held every day from people who have met on an online dating site. The world on online dating is attracting millions of people. You have the potential of meeting someone that you would have never come across in your daily life so your odds of meeting the "one" has grown exponentially. Let us help you realize your dream and take a look at our recommended online dating sites.
For more details, read our article on meeting Mr./Ms. Right.
How do I create romance?
For those first timers that don’t know how to create romance, here are some ideas which are not gender specific. I’ve sent flowers, created romantic evenings, left little surprises, sent and or left little notes. There are things that you can do for free, things that cost very little and things that are a tad more extravagant. Do what is in your budget. For information, on keeping the romance alive, take a look at the romance section. For the first few months, here are some ideas:
Send an email saying that you are thinking of them, and why. When the relationship becomes intimate - try sending a naughty card.
Send or deliver a single NOT red rose. Later in the relationship you can send red, indicating your love.
Invite them over for a romantic dinner (if you are not a cook - you can get this catered).
Set up a girl/guy night — chick flick or action movie and go all out — have popcorn in theatre buckets (available in most dollar stores)
Invite them over for wine/cocktails and thier favorite finger food. After a drink or two introduce your own "20 Question" game — questions you want them to ask and/or questions you want answered, but have been waiting to ask. Later in the relationship try playing "Dirty Minds".
Plan an evening at the park/beach to gaze at the stars. If you really want to impress try bringing wine and desert, oh - don’t forget the blanket.
Plan a picnic – remember the wine, a scrumptious feast, the blanket, plates, etc. If you can’t cook – go to your local gourmet store or restaurant – tell them what you are planning – they love to help.
Take them to dinner in a funky bistro with a walk afterwards. Have some romantic spots picked out in the area to walk to afterwards – could be a roof top terrace, or perhaps a swing at the local park or a favourite park bench.
Surprise them with a trip to a local street fair, festival, concert in the park.
Indoor gardens with dinner or coffee afterwards. The smells, textures will be relaxing and you can both breathe a little easier.
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Why are there so many dating sites?
There are hundreds of dating sites now, everyone seems to be finding a new “niche” for dating, and some sites are disappointing; however if you read our advice then you have nothing to fear. Take a look at our online dating reviews and dating site categories for more information.
Why doesn’t he/she respond to my flirt/email?
Frankly, they are not interested. I know this sounds a tad harsh, but that is generally the reason. However, maybe your flirt or email did not catch thier attention. Take a look at our article on writing a killer profile or making first contact.
Why don’t they call when they said they would?
The answer to this all depends on the situation, generally it is because they are just not into you. Let`s go thru a couple common situations our readers have presented to us:
We went on a Meet and Greet or our first date, I thought things went well and at the end they said they would write or call but they haven’t. Hmmm me thinks they were being polite. They did not feel the chemisty and avoided telling you. My advice, if they can`t be honest, then you are better off.
We had a great first date, and I invited him back to my place and we slept together — oh my, ladies ~ guys like the chase and once it is over they say good bye. You became a classic one night stand. Saying I`ve never done this before, is not believable. I know there is equality, but some sterotypes die hard — you have to cut your losses and don`t make the same mistake again.
If you`ve had a similar situation, feel free to post it on our forum (sign up at the top of the page) or our dating advice team and we will post the response in a newsletter or devote a new section to your questions.
Why are recent photo’s so important?
Today there is no excuse not to have a digital photo or two. A good profile picture will result in at least 15% higher response rate than profiles without a picture.
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There are hundreds of dating sites now. Everyone seems to be finding a new “niche” for dating, and some sites are disappointing; however if you read our advice then you have nothing to fear.
- You will need a computer
- Internet connection
- An email account that does not give out your ‘real’ name
THE SITE(S)
You need to make sure that the dating site(s) you sign up with meets your goals. It might help to make a list regarding what you are looking for. I recommend taking a look at the dating site category descriptions located here.
There are many different types of online dating sites:
General Online Dating Sites that allow you to view their memberships profiles and are aimed at ‘dating’. Examples are: American Singles, LavaLife, FriendFinder.
Relationship Dating Sites that match you based on compatibility and what you are looking for in a partner. The name says it all, these sites assume you want to enter into a permanent relationship. Examples are: Matchmaker, Chemistry.
Niche Dating Sites that cater to specific groups of people who share a common lifestyle, hobby, or passion. Examples are: passion.com , gay personals, senior dating, single millionaires, big and beautiful. For more information on dating niches, check out our dating site categories.
Decide how much you are willing to spend on your search, most dating sites charge a monthly fee so check out the prices. While free dating sites generally draw a lesser quality crowd than premium sites. Their membership tend to be a tad younger, those that are not looking for a commited relationship, or can’t afford to pay for the membership.
Are there any sites you’ve heard of that you are interested in checking out, or are there sites that your friends have had a lot of problems with? Pay attention as their experience will be invaluable when you get started.
Make a list of the sites you are interested in, or go with our recommendations. Take advantage of their free sign-up and see what the site offers, how easy it is to use, and if the quality of the singles are what you are looking for. See how many responses you get with your profile. After a week of so, you are going to find that you are spending most of your time on 2-5 of the sites, these are the ones you want to sign up with.
Where should we go?
There is a big difference between a Meet & Greet, and your first date. A meet and greet is a CASUAL meeting between two people who have been corresponding online, and are interested in each other. I recommend meetings as friends without expectations i.e. wondering if “they are they the one”. Try meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert as these imply a time limit where both parties can leave within an hour or so without hurting anyone’s feelings. Meet in an agreed to place, and ensure you both take your own transportation (see our safety tips).
For first date ideas, read the full article here.
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Dating over 40 is not easy, and often it is difficult to know where to begin. This blog covers, what the first online dating steps are, what a tag line is, what is a meet and greet, what are the pros and cons of online dating, what you should do on the first date, online dating etiquette, and finally what an adult dating site is. There is alot here but we hope you find it informative and enjoyable reading.
- Decide what dating agency is best for you. For more details read them here.
- Create a new email account through hotmail or gmail.
- Be safe, there are people who will try to scam you (read our safety tips) - however, simply put do not give out any personal information too soon.
- Pick an online nickname.
- Write an enticing profile.
- Post recent photos.
- Write a list of questions/openers to start a conversation.
- Go online regularily to respond to correspondence, chat, etc.
- Chat or email eachother online for awhile.
- Arrange a meet & greet.
- Contact the person after regarding going forward or not.
- If going forward, a first date is in order.
What is a Tag Line?
On most dating sites, there is a tag line – it is one-line that introduces you. Other than your online dating name, and photo it is the first thing people will read. Sorting through search results is like being in a crowed sporting event. Make people smile with your opening line, build thier curiosity, it is your first impression so it needs to be outstanding. For more information read our article here.
What is a Meet and Greet?
A meet and greet is a CASUAL meeting between two people who have been corresponding online, and are interested in each other. I recommend meetings as friends without expectations i.e. wondering if “they are they the one”. Try meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert as these imply a time limit where both parties can leave within an hour or so without hurting anyone’s feelings. Meet in an agreed to place, and ensure you both take your own transportation (see our safety tips).
As you are meeting in a casual environment, dress casually as it keeps the expectations in the right arena. Be yourself and remember this is a casual meeting ~ you decide whether or not you want to pursue this any further. If the meet and greet was successful, when you are back home send a short email saying that you enjoyed meeting them. It is a nice way to let them know you are interested in pursuing them further. If you are not interested, then it behooves you to let them know as well. Simply say that it was a pleasure meeting them, however, you don’t think that there is enough common ground to continue a friendship.
What are the Pros and Cons of Online Dating?
Pros
Online dating allows individuals looking for a relationship, discreet encounters; gay personals; intimate dating websites; matchmaker; professional matchmakers; senior dating; single millionaires; single parent dating sites; single women or single men to meet in a safe, non threatening environment.
Believe me, as an online dater, you will be amazed at the number of people you meet, many you will count as friends and hopefully one partner (if that is what you are looking for). You will have greater choice in who you meet as many sites are international and the people from all walks of life. I have personally met people from Europe, numerous areas of the US and Canada. You have the ability to communicate with anyone you choose and remain anonymous until you decide to meet.
Most of us dislike rejection, well some of that goes away online – with the number of contacts you make, a few people not responding makes no never mind. It’s a plain fact that people feel safe behind their monitors – so the awkwardness of that first conversation goes away. If you join a matchmaking dating site, it is even less as they help you determine your compatibility and in many cases have guided communication channels.
You save a ton of time – with everything keeping you busy in your life – you choose when to go online and who you want to correspond with.You have the chance to get to know each other before having to meet. This builds a “history” and common ground prior to that initial meeting.
It is relatively inexpensive – unless you join far to many sites – women, please ensure you pay for a membership as well – online you are on equal footing.
For women it is paradise – there are more men than women so you really will be wooed and pursued. Guys, this is your chance to shine and show women how great you are.
Cons
Some people join sites (generally free ones) just to see who is out there, they really don’t have any intention of meeting. Rather they live vicariously online – it is a bit of a pain, but you can spot them fairly quickly.
It is very common that there are more men than women on most dating sites. Guys, do yourselves a favour and don’t use a “shot gun” approach on women – they really want to know why you are interested in them! Also, chances are they have friends on the same dating site – so you will want to be upfront and keep it honest.
There are those that are going to fib, or outright mislead you online. Women from foreign countries asking for money; people who fib about their age, weight, occupation, or marital status. It’s true they are out there, but there are many more people who are straight up – why, cause you just might meet. The old rule of thumb, “if it sounds too good to be true”, should be followed online as well.
There are those that become professional online daters. They are afraid that there is someone better just coming online. It’s sad, but these people do exist – if you do start dating, at the first fork in the road, they may end it and go back online. Truthfully, it is better you know that and move past them.
What should I do on the first date?
A first date is not the Meet & Greet (see above). A first date should be special and memorable for both of you. Do not go to the movies, please – there is no way to determine a romantic connection, do something that allows you talk to each other. For more information read our article here.
What is online dating etiquette?
The following should clear up some misconceptions about online dating. I know I had a few and a number of my readers have as well.
There are two very important rules one should always keep in mind:
- One is practice personal safety ~ this applies to guys as well as women!
- Be honest – your profile must reflect you.
- It is okay to:
- Respond to and chat with several people at one time.
- Make the first move and start the correspondence (either gender can do this).
- Not to respond to an initial contact. I know this may seem rude, but if you decide they are not right for you, not responding is perfectly acceptable. Frankly it works both ways – I’d prefer no response to “I’ve read your profile and am not interested. “
- Meet several people a week (if you have the time).
- Leave if the person has misrepresented themselves (if they lied about their age, weight, marital status, etc.) Upon meeting, I have thanked the person for coming out, but said, “unfortunately you were not truthful about yourself and because of that I’m not interested in getting to know you.”
- Send an email after the Meet & Greet or one or two dates to say that you are no longer interested, or are not interested in pursuing a relationship. You’ve met online and some of us are more eloquent in writing than in person.
You should not:
- Stop corresponding with someone without an explanation. If you have been chatting or emailing on a fairly regular basis and decide to “stop” – you should let the other person know that you are no longer interested.
- Disregard your commitment to a meeting. Just like the real world, if you say you are going to do something, then do it.
- Keep your profile active, or continue to email other potential partners. If you have agreed to date each other exclusively or have entered a physical relationship then you need to discuss whether you are exclusive or not. Assumptions regarding this lead to hurt feelings. (This rule does not apply if you’ve entered the relationship for physical intimacy only – but make sure the other person is aware of your intentions.)
- Sleep with someone on the first date!
- Break things off through email if you’ve been dating for awhile. You can email the person after a Meet & Greet and even the first date or two – after that though, it becomes rude.
What is an adult dating site?
Adult dating sites are less about dating and more geared towards hooking up for sex. These sites will allow you the freedom to chat about sex openly and bring people together who are looking for physical intimacy versus a relationship. I have had a number of readers that have met and married their love on adult dating sites, it is a matter of deciding what type of site is best for you and what your priorities are.
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